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Titi’s Testimony: My Sister’s Miracle Baby

My sister got married in 2012. She was in her 30s when she got married so she wanted to have a baby immediately. My sister is naturally very nurturing so having her own child had been a big desire of her heart and when she finally found a partner who shared this same desire, it was a no brainer. By the end of 2013, there was no baby but that was okay because they were actually enjoying their honeymoon season as a married couple.

2014 came and still no pregnancy so they started to get concerned because they were definitely trying. At this point they decided it was time to speak to professionals in order to find out if there was a reason for the delay. The doctors did tests and came back with a series of reasons why they hadn’t been able to get pregnant. In addition to other reasons, my sister had some fibroids that were creating a hindrance to her ability to get pregnant and she was told she had to have them removed. She did this in 2015 and figured that after the operation having a baby won’t be an issue but it wasn’t the case.

The doctors did more tests and they gave more reasons why they couldn’t get pregnant and the conclusion was that they needed medical intervention to get pregnant and it won’t be possible without IVF. This was difficult news but also good news as many people we know had successfully had children through IVF and so it was a welcome solution even if not the ideal solution. It was also super expensive and they started to save towards it with help from other people. In 2017, they were finally ready to try IVF and so they did try at the end of the year. On Christmas eve of 2017, they found out that the IVF was not successful and that is how they celebrated the holiday season with heart ache and disappointment.

My sister decided she was done trying and was just going to leave the matter to God. She also decided to look into adoption because all that really mattered to her and her husband was to be parents and to love a child whether naturally or through adoption. So in January 2018, my sister started looking into adoption and she was genuinely excited about the prospects. So 2018 began with the decision to adopt and we started talking to other friends who had successfully adopted.

Then in March 2018, my sister called me with incredible news. SHE WAS 10 WEEKS PREGNANT. Oh my heart was so happy. The whole time she was looking into adoption, she was actually pregnant, without any kind of medical intervention. Contrary to every medical report, my darling sister was PREGNANT and that was an incredible testimony. We were so happy and looking forward to our yummy baby in October.

However, the devil being a liar and a thief that he is tried to steal our joy. My sister called me in April and said she had gone for what was meant to be a 3 months scan but when they checked, they could not find the baby and the sac looked empty. They said there was no baby and she had to have an operation to remove the pregnancy. This is called a D&C (Dilation & Cutterage) or an evacuation. My sister did more scans 2 weeks after and the result was the same, there was no baby in the sac and she needed to have the pregnancy removed as soon as possible. In fact my sister started to ask me about my experience with the same procedure and what she should expect. The whole situation was so painful. After 6 years of believing and trusting and faithing, the story was going to end with this disappointment and it was upsetting.

I remember my sister coming to visit me on a Friday, she was meant to go for the procedure that same day but she decided to stop by and pray. As we spoke, I told her I still believed she could have her baby and that she didn’t have to do the procedure. I was about 6 months pregnant with my second baby and even used that pregnancy as a point of contact for my sister. This must have been the Holy Spirit speaking through me because despite my faith, the situation really looked hopeless. We also called my brother (remind me to tell you about him one day) and he also said the same thing. He believed the baby was there and told her not to have the procedure. Despite having somewhat radical faith, I sometimes have a sense of rationality but this one was on the complete radical spectrum. I refused to believe that this was the end of the story and I told my sister as much. We all prayed and my sister decided she’ll wait until Monday before the procedure. We chatted on Sunday and she told me how she had woken up that morning filled with complete peace and she spent the whole day just praising and dancing. She refused to allow herself to wallow in sorrow and she actively found her joy.

A friend of hers called her that same day and suggested she tried yet another lab for a scan. My sister decided she had nothing to lose and went in for a scan on Monday for one last time before the procedure. She laid down and expected the same bad news about an empty sac so she was completely stunned when the radiologist started talking about the foetus and how many weeks old the baby was and all kinds of information she had not expected. My sister could barely speak as she called me while still in the lab looking at the screen. The radiologist was confused by her reaction and then she told him about the previous report. He was also surprised because he could see a baby in the womb, how could they have seen an empty sac before, not once but multiple times. How could they have told her to go and get the pregnancy removed with an evacuation when right there was a growing baby.

I know God is always turning situations around but the entire story of my sister’s daughter is the greatest testimony of 2018 for me. In October 2018, we welcomed our precious baby girl aptly named Precious. She is the most beautiful baby girl and she is such a blessing. Every time I look at her I am in complete awe of God’s Grace and I always say: “But they said the sac was empty, this is a real life baby”.

Imagine if my sister had believed the very first report and not delayed and tried other scans. Our daughter won’t be here, and we would have not been able to share this testimony. What if my sister had allowed the negative report to steal her joy and trust in God? What if she became bitter and just chose to live by sight and not by faith. I truly believe the state of our mind can also cloud our ability to see where God is working. She chose joy and in the midst of that she could choose to try one last scan instead of going to get the d&c in anger! Sometimes anger is the hindrance to our testimony. I am always learning that it is so key to stay joyful no matter what we see.

I truly pray that no matter what you are going through, that you won’t lose your trust and faith in an amazing God who loves you as a father would. I pray you will choose to turn to him despite what life throws at you. I pray you will stay strong in the midst of the storm because Jesus Christ is in your boat and he can silent every storm. I pray my sister’s story is a blessing to you and the boost your faith needs. Please share your story with us and be a light to someone else. Leave your comments and thoughts and questions.

 

Light and love

 

Tito.

Mr Y’s Testimony

 

 

We rarely think of fertility challenges as being a man’s issue and it always seems to be about the women but the truth is that this is a challenge for the men too especially when you feel completely helpless. Thank you Mr Y for sharing this with us.

When I got married almost 5 years ago, to this nerdy, pretty, loving and smart doctor, the last thing I worried about was having challenges having babies. Thankfully, I’m married to a consultant medical practitioner.. so if there was anything I worried about, it was having enough money to look after my family not having babies. Or so I thought.

So after 12months of being married without getting pregnant, my wife recommended that we see a fertility specialist to ascertain the reason since we were trying to get pregnant. Reluctantly I agreed.

After the medical evaluations, the results confirmed that our chances of having babies via normal conception was quite slim.
I swear this confirmation hit me like a bomb and got me asking myself these questions. Why me? Why us…
You watch it on TV and read about it on the blogs, but you never expect it would happen to you.

Anyway, we realised we had a challenge and no amount of sulking, worrying or crying would change anything. We had to pray and do the needful. So we braced up and went in for an IVF procedure.

We went in really upbeat and determined. We both placed our hopes on God’s words and promises.

IVF is hard work, from the collection procedure to the needles. The long emotionally tasking 2weeks post transfer wait… We prayed it would be worth it. But then, the news came and it failed…

It was hard accepting the news. It broke me watching my wife cry so much that day. She sat on the living room carpet crying her eyes out. She felt it was her fault. Probably something she didn’t do right? How could she not be able to achieve this? She’s a consultant, this is what she was trained to achieve! She helps people get pregnant and she has delivered dozens of babies doing her job.

I tried my best to comfort her and assured her that it was just a year and 6months into our marriage. The babies would come by God’s grace. It wasn’t easy though, I was already 36 and my wife was 31. Secretly I worried too. A lot actually.

It was a crazy period. I recall different pastors coming to visit and praying for us and the varying counsel from family and friends on how to remedy the situation. People who have experienced this challenge can easily relate to this phase

Not to forget the uncouth statements from some friends and colleagues. Statements like..”You Na no go born?? You guys ain’t growing young oh?”

The pressure set in and in another 2 years we had undergone 3 additional failed IVF procedures and millions of hard earned cash spent.

At this point and almost 4 years into married the doctors advised we discussed the option of surrogacy. Didn’t even know they did it in Nigeria…

Anyway at this point I had, had enough and needed to clear my head. So my wife and I went on separate vacations. Just to get closure and me-time. It helped just being away from everyone and everything that reminded us about the baby wahala.

On our return, we promised ourselves we would take a break from the procedure and just heal.

But then we received a call from one of our specialist who was relocating and appealed that we try just one more time.

It was such a confusing period. We had agreed to rest and just live for now. What’s this appeal again?? The weekend after the call, my wife appealed that we should try just for the last time. Reluctantly I agreed …

Mid year 2016, we went in for another procedure, indifferent in our approach which was due to the 4 failed earlier​ attempts.

One week into the egg transplant my wife started complaining of acute abdominal pain and was diagnosed of acute OHSS. Her tummy was swollen from fluid accumulation in her ovaries which had to be drained with a tube. During this period we totally forgot about the the pregnancy matter, I just prayed she got better.

A week after the OHSS treatment she went in for her routine pregnancy test despite the pain and medications. The news came out… We were having a baby.

Baby ke? How? After 4 procedures under the best conditions we didn’t get pregnant. How is this possible?? But yes, our God did it. With a 25% chance of getting pregnant. God showed up.

The excitement was great and equally overwhelming. We couldn’t wait.

3 months into the pregnancy my wife was diagnosed of a threatened miscarriage. But God stepped in.

Between 5-7months, she was hospitalised twice for severe pre-term contractions. And once again God showed up

5 months ago we welcomed our bundle of joy into this world. A bouncing baby boy with all my good genes and his mum’s intuition. I hope.

Watching him grow daily is pure delight. Growing into a healthy, happy and blessed child. Just did a quick glance at him sleeping on my chest as I type in this pretty long write-up..

In all, our God is faithful and true. We just have to believe and trust in Him to direct us. We need to be intuitive to know when to move once he says so …

During our period of wait, the stories on the Lighthouse site really helped build my faith. And so did the mails I exchanged with Tito. God bless you all. I pray my story encourages and blesses someone out there.

Blessings.

Mr. Y.

My Lighthouse Simisola's Testimony

Simisola: My Journey to Fruitfulness

My name is simisola and I got married in 2013 at 32years. Getting married so late I wanted to start having kids immediately but I had early been diagnosed wit Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) because my period was not regular so I knew I would need intervention to get pregnant.

So by the end of 2013 I started going to gynecologist. I did 6 rounds/cycles of Clomid and FSH (hormone to boost follicle) and no fertilization at every cycle, in march 2014 I met another doctor who placed me on 3,000mg of metformin per day to regularize my period. I took this till the end of 2014. In July 2015 I was on vacation in Houston and I decided to see a fertility specialist who sent me got HSG test to see the viability of my tubes and one of my tubes was blocked and he concluded that getting pregnant naturally would be difficult but since we decide IVF was not for us he placed me on FEMARA for 4months and still nothing happened.

At the beginning of 2015 hubby told me to rely solely on God and stop going to doctor, I stopped and we both knew that only God could help us since Gods intention is for everyone to be fruitful. PS 127 vs 3-5 “Children are the heritage of the Lord the fruit of the womb its his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man so are children of the youth. Happy is the man who has is quiver full of them they shall not be ashamed but they shall speak with the enemy at the gate.

In September 2015, I went to the Redemption camp because the September service is basically for fruitfulness for people waiting on the lord for the fruit of the womb. The following 7 prayer points were raised which I prayed fervently:

1) Praise him

2) Father, please clear all obstruction to my fruitfulness

3) Father ever plant you did not plant in my system please uproot tonight

4) Father, please repair whatever needs to be repaired in my system tonight

5) Father whatever cannot be repaired please replace it tonight

6) Father, please let al my good seeds be very fruitful

7) Father, let me hear good news this month and the rest of my life

That Holy Ghost Service was on the 5th of September and saw my period on the 9th without medication. I thanked God for that but the following months there was no period. In January 2016, i was grilling fish and I bent down to open the oven but could not get up I was feeling dizzy, so I went to a lab to run a test which was positive. I went to another hospital and it was positive. I then went to do a scan at another hospital that confirmed that I was 16weeks pregnant. So I went through the first trimester without any Morning Sickness. When God shows up for you it is in a mighty way.

At 29 weeks the enemy wanted to strike but the Almighty God proved himself able. I had gone for routine antenatal and I had a scan that said I was 1.5cm dilated. The doctors were shocked and I was given medications to insert and also steroids for the baby’s lungs. I had the baby at full term of 40weeks and 3 days. Ps62 vs 11 says “for this child I prayed and the lord has given me my petition which I asked of him”. And so my mouth is filled with laughter and our tongue with singing then said they among the heathen, the lord has done great things for me Ps 126 vs 2

This testimony is to the glory of God. When doctors could not help, the Lord my creator showed up for me in his infinite mercies. I want to encourage someone today that the Lord that did it for me is still on the throne and his ears are not heavy to hear us. Call on him, trust him and he will show himself might in your situation and life. James1 vs 17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above coming down from the Father of lights with whom there can be no variation neither shadow of turning. God is always faithful to his word.

God Bless you all.

Simisola